Romantic Calmness

Romantic love is often associated with tempestuous excitement. In fact, love can be like that; but in our current accelerated society, calmness is the new romantic excitement.

Emotions are often compared to storms and fire. They are perceived to be unstable and intense states that represent tempestuous excitement and agitation. A typical characteristic of emotions is their tendency to magnify. This characterization also prevails in descriptions of romantic love. We usually think that ideal love consists of constant excitement and uncompromising emotions.

The above characterizations are essentially true concerning tempestuous emotions. These are intense, focused emotions, which last for a brief period, as emotions are typically temporary states. But there also enduring emotions, which shape our attitudes and behavior in a permanent way, that can continue for a lifetime.

Not all tempestuous emotions can turn into enduring emotions, but romantic love can. Therefore, we can distinguish between romantic intensity and profundity.
Romantic intensity is a snapshot of a romantic experience at a given moment: it refers to the momentary level of passionate, often sexual, desire. It is brief and has no significant development.
Romantic profundity is an ongoing romantic experience that features frequent intensity and enduring romantic experiences that develop and enhance the flourishing of each lover and their relationship. Such love is evaluated mainly by the implementation of meaningful interactions, which involve joint activities and shared emotional experiences.
Time is positive and constitutive for romantic profundity, and destructive for romantic intensity.

Love in the Distance

Absence is to love as wind is to fire; it extinguishes the small and kindles the great. ~ Roger de Bussy-Rabutin

And ever has it been known that love knows not its own depth until the hour of separation. ~ Khalil Gibran

It’s not the distance that’s the enemy, but the endless time I have to wait until I hold you in my arms. ~ Besski Livius

Missing That Someone

Missing someone, they say, is self-centered. I self-center you more than ever. ~ Saša Stanišić

Love is missing someone whenever you’re apart, but somehow feeling warm inside because you’re close in heart. ~ Kay Knudsen

Missing someone is a part of loving them. If you’re never apart, you'll never really know how strong your love is. ~ Helen Fielding

Real Love

Love happens easily and naturally.

No games.

Two people meet and they are ready to journey together.

No imprisonments or psychologically empty deals.

It is simply:

• I love you and I want the best for you. 
• You love me and you want the best for me. 

That is real love.

Read more about it here.

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